How to Tell Your Loved Ones That You are Eloping
An elopement can be an exciting and deeply personal decision for couples. However, breaking the news to family and loved ones is often one of the biggest road blocks we find that couples face. Compassion, sensitivity and being completely self-assured in your plans to elope is key! Here are some of our favorite tips for telling your family that you want to elope!
Choose the Right Time and Place: Timing is important when it comes to sharing such amazing news. We suggest planning a day with family separately so you are in person and sharing the news in a way which makes them feel included in your lives. A family dinner, a FaceTime call if you are long distance, a fun activity you all enjoy together… it can be anything!
Be honest and open: Begin the conversation by expressing your love and gratitude for your family. Explain the reasons behind your decision to elope, emphasizing that it is a choice made out of love for each other rather than a desire to exclude anyone.
Highlight your relationship: Share the unique aspects of your relationship that led to the decision to elope. Whether it's a desire for intimacy, a preference for a specific location, or a wish for a more personal and meaningful ceremony, helping your family understand the motivations behind your choice can foster understanding.
Assure them of your love and commitment: Reassure your family that your decision to elope doesn't diminish your love and commitment to each other or to them. Emphasize that your choice is about celebrating your love in a way that feels right for you, and it doesn't diminish the importance of your family in your lives.
Plan a celebration: Offer to plan a celebration or gathering with family and friends after the elopement. This can be a chance for everyone to come together, share in your joy, and celebrate your marriage. It also provides an opportunity for your loved ones to feel included. This is of course optional as it can incur a larger cost which many couples happily avoid while eloping, but even a casual backyard BBQ is a great way to celebrate!
Involve your loved ones: You don’t have to physically invite anyone to your elopement of course unless you desire that. You can invite them to help you pick out elopement attire, have them write heartfelt letters to open on your elopement day, or even hire a videographer to better share your elopement experience with them.
Handle reactions with grace: Anticipate a range of emotions and reactions from your family. Be prepared to answer questions and address concerns with patience and understanding. Allow space for their feelings and try to find common ground that respects both your choices and their feelings.